My response

Is it my wife's fault when I get upset when she doesn't do what I want her to?

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs talks about how my spouse is very good at revealing my true nature.

My response is my responsibility

Am I a rose or a skunk?

Ephesians 5:25-30

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.

So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body.